Different Kinds of Lies

We all know that there are an assortment of different kinds of lies. Some are minor white lies which are spoken to save someone's feelings from unnecessary discomfort. There are other lies which are manufactured to create a different scene from the actual truth for the purpose of a business which may not actually be harmful. And there are other lies which are omissions of fact that are meant to hurt and destroy.

An example of a lie, still told, to create a different scene from the actual truth which may not be actually harmful is the myth of the romance between Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy. This was business PR which was a benefit to both of them and was not actually harmful unless you count the fact that many people would be slightly upset that this romance was not real.

The actual truth is this: Kate was gay and Spencer was straight. And they both loved booze and acting. Though they were fond of each other, their essential ties were the craft of acting and the consumption of booze. Spencer was an inveterate binge drinker and Kate was known in Hollywood as being able to drink anybody, man or woman under the table if she chose to do so. Kate and Spencer never owned or shared a house together and, most likely, never a bed either unless they were both too drunk to adjourn to their separate houses.

Mrs. Spencer Tracy wanted to preserve her title of "Mrs. Spencer Tracy" but some story had to be concocted as to why Spencer could not divorce and marry Kate. So the story was that Mrs. Tracy was Catholic and could not divorce. But the truth is that Mrs. Tracy was Episcoplalian and could have easily divorced and Spencer was protected. The general public did not know that Kate was a lesbian so the Tracy lie covered her tracks too. I grew up in Kate's home community and the fact of her lesbianism was well known there though not advertised as a general rule.

It was clever PR for both of them and it worked beautifully. Did it hurt anyone? Probably not. Except for those who believe in every story that Hollywood puts out about their own.

But then there are lies that are meant to hurt and destroy. In my case, a psychiatrist, who is still still living lied when he did not tell me that the ingestion of lithium for over five years would guarantee that I would develop kidney disease. In addition, he lied by omission when he did not tell me that he had ordered that blood tests to determine when I came down with kidney disease were not to be done. His plan was for me to contract fatal kidney disease, which is a silent killer and die in his hospital.

But why?

Why would a doctor who has sworn a Hippocratic oath to "First, do no harm" do this? For this doctor, it was simple. He had been offfered $2 million dollars by my adoptive mother for his hospital to keep me until she died. The best way to assure that the hospital got the money was to make sure I died before my adoptive mother did.

However, this psychiatrist, who lives in CT and is a graduate of George Washington University, Phi Beta Kappa and George Washington Medical School, Summa Cum Laude underestimated me. He didn't count on me getting out of the hospital and finding his written orders that prove he deliberately tried to murder me. Read all the details in "Surviving High Society". Available from my website, www.survivinghighsociety.com as well as Amazon and Kindle.

To Anonymous Comment on Mayflower descent

There are probably hundreds of thousands of people who are descended from the Mayflower and would like to "claim that descent" as my anonymous commentator said.

Although I was adopted in the era when any knowledge of my background was jealously guarded (even my original birth certificate was falsified with a wrong name for my mother), there is one way which can unlock many of the secrets of adoption. It is the way I found my natural family.

In many states, if an adoptee can present to the probate judge in the district where they were born, a certificate signed by a doctor saying that said adoptee has an inheritable medical condition which could be passed on to any children, most likely the probate judge will order that the original family should be found so that medical information about the family as a whole can be passed on to the adopted person.

In my case, a probate judge in Chicago ordered that my family should be found based on a doctor's signed note that I had bi-polar disease. My genetic family was found in a matter of weeks. The cost to me was in the $600 range. I found a brother (and his wife and two children), an uncle and four first cousins and their children in 2001. I am still in touch with many of them, particularly my brother and his wife. One of my cousins is into genealogy and took my maiden (adopted) name and showed me how I was related by blood, through my natural maternal grandmother to my adoptive father who had a Mayflower heritage reaching back to William Brewster

The irony for me was the fact that the doctor who sent the letter to the judge and other doctors before him had lied. I am not bi-polar. But because of their lies, I found my roots.